WHITNEY RILEY

You've made the list. You know what the right choice is. Between the knowing and the doing is a chasm — and the reason it won't close isn't a character flaw. Here's what's actually happening, and what becomes possible when the pattern starts to shift.

If love in your early life came with uncertainty — warmth that appeared and withdrew, connection that required earning, closeness that could never quite be counted on — then your nervous system didn't conclude that something was wrong. It adapted.